Preface: This is not my usual food & fitness post, but as I got “buzzed” on Saturday morning with a “Best Drink Ever” (literally that’s what it’s called), the words instantly started flowing. I hope you are enjoying a cup of coffee while reading this as much as I enjoyed mine while writing it.
When I think about this past year, I can’t help but have that jaw dropping, WTF feeling with all that has happened in my life and how so much has changed for me in my career, my personal life, and my family. I’ve been reflecting a lot recently since it was one year ago this month that I left my stable marketing job to embark on a new adventure at a start-up company. I wanted to learn, continue growing, and work in an industry I was passionate about. While I certainly learned more than I could have hoped for in such a fast moving environment, I also learned that change happens — quickly and often unexpectedly. You can either adapt and move on or dwell in “what was” or “what you could have done differently” which helps no one — especially not you.
In one year I lost my job, my best friend moved to a new city, I moved in with my boyfriend, my Great Uncle who was the closest thing to a Grandpa we ever had passed away, I decided to start my own business, I ran 4 half marathons, and I gained 5 pounds.
With so much change going on in my life, I decided I needed some help. It is no secret that I’ve read my share of self help books this past year. From You’re a Badass, to You’re a Badass at Making Money, to The 4 Hour Work Week, I’ve found something helpful in each one of them. But the basic principle that remains in all three books starts with changing your mindset.
You have the power — through your thoughts, beliefs, and actions — to create your reality. -Jen Sincero
It All Starts With Changing Your Mindset
In order to be successful in your job, your personal life, or your family, you have to believe that you are successful and deserving of success. It all starts with changing your mindset. In June, I took some time to write down what success looks like so that I have a better idea of what I want in my life — and what makes me happy. Now keep in mind that I’m 26 years old and success may change as I change or grow and I’m OK with that, but for now, success to me looks something like this: having the freedom and flexibility to live my life by my design, putting my health and wellness both physical and mental at the forefront, being able to spend time with the people that matter most in my life, and having financial stability.
As I started my own business, I kept this vision of success in mind with every decision. I have to truly believe and be confident in my actions and abilities. Yes, I had (and still sometimes have) some fleeting thoughts of doubt, but if you ever feel this way, I advise you to instantly shove those thoughts out of your head! When I have these moments, I remind myself of all that I’ve accomplished and all the GOOD things I have in my life — and you should too.
Don’t Fall Into the Comparison Trap
With social media and our lives so beautifully, and selectively portrayed online, it’s easy to fall into the comparison trap. “I wish I could travel more. I would love her closet. Their relationship is just perfect. They are so lucky they can work from wherever.” And it always ends with “I could never do that” or “I wish I could do that”. Well guess what, you can — you just have to want it, believe you deserve it, and take action on it — because without action, it’s just a wish.
Let Go of Insecurities
This is something I’m still working on, but I’ve gotten better at😉 The truth is, people can see right through those insecurities and they’ll take advantage of them. If you’re a freelancer or business owner, you have to be comfortable with your prices and stand by them if it’s what you know you deserve and you know what is fair. If you’re insecure with your body, which is something I know many including myself still struggle with, buy clothes that make YOU feel confident, do workouts that make YOU feel good. When you do something good for YOU, you start to feel better about yourself — and others will notice.
If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.– Tim Ferriss
As I said earlier, I know this was not my usual food/fitness post, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately and something I felt was important to share. Changing my mindset, my beliefs, and acting on them has had a pretty significant impact on my overall health, business, and happiness so I’m hoping that you can take some piece of this and find comfort in knowing that you’re not alone with your feelings, our lives are not always as filtered as what’s displayed on social media, we all have insecurities, and finding success & happiness starts with changing our mindsets.